I've mostly calmed down since Thursday. I'm still sad, but am also annoyed, angry and hurt.
First, I know that whether or not you vaccinate yourself or your children, if you have living children, is a totally personal choice. Jon and I choose to vaccinate. I've gotten the flu shot every year since I was 9 (because I'm diabetic) and I haven't had the flu since I was 8. As such, I'm a strong believer in the flu vaccine. With that stated, I'm pissed at my sister.
Now that we are a 7-hour drive from the majority of my family and Gus will be starting school the opportunities to go visit have dramatically decreased. Trying to think ahead to Christmas 2014, Lucy will be about 10 weeks old. This is far too young for her to receive the flu vaccine, so the best protection we can give her is to keep her away from those who are not vaccinated and could introduce the flu to her.
It was already confirmed with my dad that he and my step-mom vaccinate each year. I sent separate emails to my three sisters and mom & step-dad inquiring if they vaccinate. The first response I received back was from Sister #2, the drama-queen that if we weren't blood related I would likely have nothing to do with her ever. She, her husband, my niece and nephew, will not be getting vaccinated. I asked her if she would consider getting vaccinated this year, as 4 non-vaccinated people is too many to have around Lucy, so that we could come up for Christmas. Her response? "Not big on the flu shot. Sorry"
With that response, I am now unable to go visit my parents until April 2015, at the earliest. Lucy won't be old enough for the vaccine until then (assuming she's born in October) and that's when Gus has a spring vacation from school. I get that it's her body and her choice, but in the time that she took to reply to my inquiry, I knew she hadn't even thought about getting it this year so that we could come up. That's what I'm pissed about. Her choice dictates that I can't go see my family and she didn't even think about it.
She, who lives in town and can see my parents whenever she damn well pleases, but only really contacts them when she needs something and totally takes them all for granted. She who only contacts me, usually by email, when she's trying to sell something from one of the many at-home business she's a consultant for. She who thinks only of herself.
So, I will not get to see my family this year at Christmas, and I'm sad. I cried for about 2 hours on Thursday night. My dad had just left that day and Gus had a great time visiting with him. Now, it's going to be at least 8 months before Gus & Grandpa can hang out again, unless he comes to visit. My mom won't get to meet Lucy until she's 8mo old as she winter's in Florida, so it will be June before they meet.
The pissed part of me knows that I will not keep quiet about this. I will choose my moments to voice how the only reason we aren't coming for Christmas is because of those unwilling to vaccinate this year.